recently i read this on the internet:
sexual intercourse is the most intimate act that two people can do.
when two people talk, with all defenses down, all hopes and fears and loves and hates as potential subjects, without fear of sounding or seeming foolish or silly or pompous or pretentious ...that is the most intimate act that two people can do.
it's the male in me that led me to that conclusion. sometimes sexual intercourse can just be rutting. there's little intimacy in that.
now if you have good foreplay, sexual intercourse done with at least affection, and a no-holds-barred talk afterwards -- that's a trifecta of intimacy!